Wednesday, July 30, 2014

Addiction: Slave To Drugs

Every day, I see a man or woman who is addicted to drugs and/or alcohol. Have you ever thought about what that person's life was like prior to being addicted to drugs and/or alcohol? So many times I often wonder what went wrong in their lives that caused them to turn to drugs and/or alcohol as a way to cope with life. Did they lose a their job? Did they lose a parent, a child or a spouse? They probably faced the same struggles we face on a daily basis. The difference is we were a little stronger to endure the storm. Maybe we had someone to hold our hand as we faced our problems. Perhaps someone to pray for us.

Substance Addictions
via alcoholism-and-drug-addiction-help
Every morning, for almost two years I saw the same woman who was addicted to drugs. January 7, 2013 will forever stay in my mind because thats the day, I noticed she was pregnant. My heart felt for the unborn baby who would be born addicted to drugs. Months went by I saw her a few times, but she was not pregnant and she did not look high. I could not help but wonder what happened to the baby. Did she carry the baby to term? Did someone adopt the baby? The last time I saw this women, she was dazed and high as a kite. It was that day that I decided to write a poem through the eyes of a drug addict on the road to recovery. The name of the poem is called:

Slave To Drugs

My life with you has come to an end
On you narcotic I will no longer depend
You came into my life when I could no longer cope
After getting to know you, you gave me hope
Back then I was distracted from my problems, you were my decoy
Not once did I think about all that you would destroy
No one understood then and today they still don't understand
No one to reach out to, no one to lend a helping hand
You stole my childrens childhood, they paid the ultimate price
I understand the heartache and I want to end my life
The only way for me to do this is to overdose
So I consumed so many drugs that I laid there comatose.
But that was then, this is now
I changed my life, I'll tell you how
Now that I am sober, I think about the way drugs made me feel
I can't believe that was my life, it was so unreal
A nurse asked me what I wanted for myself and I replied to be free
Then she dropped on her knees and proceeded to pray for me
She said God is not done with you yet, you have much to achieve
God is here to help you all you have to do is believe
It was then I knew I had to get my life on track
When everyone left me God continued to have my back

Behavioral Addictions
via Dr. Sharma
Merriam dictionary describes addiction as a strong and harmful need to regularly have something or do something. If you are dependent on a substance and cannot control what you do, say, ingest, etc then you are addicted. Addiction does not only apply to substance. It can also refer to behavioral addiction. We are all addicted to something be it food, drugs, alcohol, sex, money, video games, shopping, gambling etc. You may be thinking, I am not addicted; it's just a habit. Well, our habits can become addictions and affect our lives tremendously. 



 via Tragically Flawed

So tell me, what are you addicted to?

Monday, July 28, 2014

Walking With Dinosaurs

On Thursday, July 16, 2014, Tereya, Nyasia and I attended Walking with Dinosaurs- the Arena Spectacular at Barclays Center. The show was amazing. It was very educational, exciting, and entertaining. The show is not animated. It is a live theatrical show and the sound effects were amazing. It was told by the narrator Huxley, who walks us through the Triassic PeriodJurassic Period, and the Cretaceous Period
My girls before and during the show

The Triassic Period occurred 248 million years ago and lasted about 42 million years. During this period there was one big continent called Pangea. It was located near the equator so the weather was always hot and dry. Sometime during the Triassic, the continent began to break. The Plateosaurus and Liliensternus are two of many dinosaurs that walked the earth prior to the mass extinction and volcano eruptions.
The land before & after volcano eruptions


Liliensternus

Plateosaurus
The Jurassic Period is called the Age of the Dinosaurs. It occurred after the Triassic Period around 208 million years ago and lasted about 64 million years. During this period volcanoes were erupting and Pangea continued to break apart into two parts forming the north (North America, Europe, and Asia) and south (South America, Africa, Australia, Antarctica and India-which is a region within Asia). The climate was warm and several different life forms emerged during the Jurassic Period. Flowers were blooming and dinosaurs such as Stegosaurus, Brachiosaurus and Allosaurus walked the earth.

Beautiful Plant Life










Brachiosaurus, Stegosaurus, and Allosaurus 

The Cretaceous Period  occurred 144 million years ago and lasted about 79 million years. During this period, several kinds of dinosaurs emerged to rule the land and the sky.  For example the Torosaurus, was a dinosaur but it also looked like a Rhinoceros. The Ankylosaurus, Ornithocheirus and the famous Tyrannosaurus Rex were among the few that terrorized the Earth. Some scientists believe it was a volcano that destroyed the dinosaurs. Some believe a meteor collided with Earth and caused the extinction of dinosaurs and many flowers perished. Either way, it did not end well for the dinosaurs.

Torosaurus & Ankylosaurus 

Ornithocheirus, Tyrannosaurus Rex & Baby
The End of The Dinosaurs
I have never been a fan of anything with dinosaurs, but after seeing this show I must admit that I am eager to learn more about the creatures that dominated the earth over 200 million years ago. It's possible the show may come to a venue near you. Visit the website to find a show and purchase a ticket.

Stop Standing In Your Own Way



In life we all encounter obstacles and we all have different circumstances. Some individuals may have more obstacles, as well as an unusual set of circumstances than others. Unfortunately, the world is not going to treat you any different. You may come in contact with someone who is sympathetic to your situation, but at the end of the day it doesn't matter. It is a part of life, YOUR life. What matters is how you respond to those obstacles and circumstances.

Are you going to lie down and die or are you going to do all you can to change your circumstances and overcome the obstacles in your path? In order to do so first you must acknowledge and become one with your circumstances. The key is not to dwell in them. Secondly, identify who or what is standing in your way. Truth be told, most of the time, you are the obstacle. You are standing in your way. This can be the result of fear, an unsupportive spouse, mate, friend and family. Finally, create a personal development plan (PDP) to help you discover who you are and what goals you would like to accomplish in your life. A PDP can also help you identify the skills and experience you already have or may need to advance in your career to have the life you want. Another option is to create a vision board which is a collage of things you desire for your life. 

For so long, I have been the obstacle in my life. Everyone is afraid of something and if they tell you they are not afraid of anything, they are not telling the truth. I have allowed fear to keep me from doing so many things. My fears have me paralyzed. I am afraid of failure and the unknown. One day last week I was on Joyce Meyer's website and I stumbled upon an article called Facing Fear and Finding Freedom. It was after I read this article as well as a few others she has on fear, purpose, and several other topics that I decided to face my fears and be free. I have always had a PDP, but I decided to give it a face lift by using the SWOT Analysis and recreating my S.M.A.R.T Goals. 

In college I learned about a few strategy tools that are used for business purposes, but can also be applied to your personal life. One strategy is called the SWOT Analysis (click the link to view the article) and it is designed to help you identify your Strengths (internal), Weaknesses (internal), Opportunity (external) and Threats (external). Another technique to consider is creating S.M.A.R.T Goals (click the link to view the article). This tool was developed to help employers manage their employee's perfomance. Nonetheless, you can use it to manage your personal performance as you work toward your goal. When you write down your goals they should be Specific (what do you want to accomplish), Measurable (what is the progress you have made), Attainable (achievable), Realistic (Outcome) and Timely (completion date).

Life is about taking risk. Every day when I walk the streets of New York I am taking a risk. There is a 50 percent chance that I may not make it back home to my family. I realize there is no difference. I have nothing to lose and everything to gain. I am on my way to living fearlessly, finding my purpose and I am so excited.

Are you in your own way? What is stopping you from doing what you really want to do?

Monday, July 14, 2014

Nyasia's Summer Assignment


This Thursday marks three weeks since NYC public schools have been dismissed for Summer vacation. In my previous post Twerk A Book....Make Them Pages Clap I stated a few reasons why it is important for our children to read during the Summer. I also posted links to a few Summer Reading Programs that offer incentives. I know reading is one of many important skills my daughters will learn and use throughout their life. It is imperative that my daughters retain all they learned during the school year. So, it is important that they read and practice their math skills every day.



Nyasia was given a Summer break assignment that consists of a math and a reading assignment. The reading assignment consists of a book of her choice and the required book Tales of A Fourth Grade Nothing by Judy Blum. She also has to write a book report for both books. As of to day, she has began reading her second book for this Summer. The title of the book is Judy Moody and The Not So Bummer Summer. She will also use the second book to complete her second book report. Her assignments are due on the first day of school. In addition, she has vowed to read 2 extra books this Summer.

Tereya is in high school and she did not receive a Summer assignment. She has not provided me her book list. However, she is still required to read something whether it's a book, magazine, or news paper.

 
How is your children's Summer assignment coming along?