Thursday, November 13, 2014

How Do You Make Time For Yourself?

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Being a mother, a daughter, a sister, a professional and a friend can be very stressful. How often have you found yourself saying, "I wish I had more hours in the day" or "I wish I had a moment  for myself". As parents, we all find ourselves wishing we had more hours during the day and time for ourselves. I lead a very busy life and I never seem to have time for myself. It's not easy being a single mother who has to juggle working a full time job, attending college courses, maintaining a household, returning phone calls, caring for and giving attention to my two daughters and significant other. The only time I can get at least 30 minutes of uninterrupted "me time" is when I take my bath. Lately, this has been impossible. Creating more "me time" is not at the top of my to do list, but it is on my to do list. 

There are times when I get "a break" but I do not consider it "a break". Reason being is, during this time I am usually doing something around the house or running errands that involves picking up or items for my girls or family members. My life is so involved in doing things and spending time with other people that when I do have a moment, a true moment for myself most of the time I have no idea what to do. If I do find something to entertain myself or just relax and unwind I often feel guilty. There are several adjustments I need to make in my life so I can have some "me time".  During my train ride I made a mental note to do the following: 
  • prioritize my responsibilities
  • make myself a priority
  • realize my happiness is equally important 
  • give to myself just as much as I give to others
  • learn to say no
  • add myself to my calendar
  • stop and smell the roses
  • relax, relate, release (don't forget the glass /bottle of wine)

I know that I deserve time for myself. I realize I also need this time. I crave this time so I will not feel overwhelmed, frustrated and excessively tired. This "me time" would allow me to reconnect with myself .

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Have you placed yourself on your priority list? How have you made more time for yourself?

Sunday, November 2, 2014

Happy Birthday Mommy

Today is my mothers birthday. I wrote this on my facebook page as a tribute to my mother. I decided to share it with you all. My mother has been through a lot during her life. She was a teen mom, but she never let it deter her from doing any thing. She finished high school and enrolled in the U.S. Army. She stubmled upon a few bumps in the road. She even fell a few times, but she never stayed down. She always managed to get back up.I am so grateful that the Lord has blessed my mother to see another year. I am grateful that I as well as my sister, brother and her grandchildren have her in our lives another day. 

To be a mother at 16 was not an easy task

I am sure you were frightened and did not know what to do, 
You probably cried day and night, but you had to see this journey through
My father said I was not his and for both you and me it was a horrible day
Unlike him, you did not have the option to turn and walked away
Nine months later I entered the world
They swaddled me in cloth and introduced you to your baby girl
There were many nights you did not get much sleep
There were good times and bad times, nonetheless I was yours to keep

We have had disagreements but with prayer and the will of God, we made it through
The sun did not shine always and there were several days of rain
With God’s grace and mercy together we crossed milestones and we made it through the pain

Thank you for giving me life and being my eyes when I could not see
Thank you for your encouragement and believing in me
Thank you for being there for my girls from the very start
You will always have a special place in our hearts.
Happy Birthday Mommy! I love you.

Homelessness In America


Someone shared a video on my facebook page about a Chicago homeless man named Ronald Davis (click his name to view his interview). I then proceeded to view a  video about a homeless man named Maurice Johnson, who is 55 years old and is from Cleveland, but resides in Boston. He has 2 Masters Degrees (in Plasma Physics and Electrical Engineering and Acoutsics; click his name to view his interview). As I watched these interviews it brought tears to my eyes and prompted me to write this post. 

Why are so many people homeless in America? What can we as a nation instead of being judgmental? We don't know their story. We don't know the things they have gone through. We are all a paycheck away from being homeless. There are times my job annoys the heck out of me, but I thank God I have one so I can provide for my family. I recall the day on the train, I gave my food to a man on the train and he threw it away when he went to the next car. I was pissed. I vowed never to help another person on the street who asked me for something. 


Of course, I have gone back on my word several times since then. Being who I am and how I was raised I can't turn my head and act as thought I don't see them. There have been times when I did not have it to give and I felt so bad. There are times when I did not have much to spare, but I gave anyway. The Lord turned right around and blessed me anyhow. The next time you see someone who is down on their luck think about all the different scenarios that caused them to be on the street. 
Every homeless person is not a drug addict, a prostitute or uneducated. They may have lost their job which means they could not pay the rent. As a result they are now homeless. Some of these men and women are veterans. These men and women may not have family to help them. It is a possibility rhere family members are not able to help them. Maybe their pride is getting in the way of them going to seek help. I don't know what the reason is, but i do know this could happen to anyone at any time. 

Before you walk past them as if they are invisible, think about their situation.They are human, and I always wonder how someone got in their situation. What happened to them? Never take anything for granted. Anyone of us could be in this situation.

Would you want someone to pass you by or would you want someone to help you? 
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