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Thank you for visiting my blog. My name is Lyndia. I am a 30+ year old single mom who resides in Brooklyn, NY. I work full time and I am a full-time college student. I was blessed with two beautiful daughters. My eldest is Tereya (Rae) and she is a student at Brooklyn College. My youngest is Ny’Asia (Ny) and she is a student at Uncommon Collegiate Charter School. Like most siblings, they argue, fuss and fight but they love each other. 

My daughters do not have the same father. Don’t you dare judge me. My daughters are the result of what used to be loving relationships. At the age of 20, I became pregnant with Tereya. We faced several challenges. Some were caused by us and a lot were caused by outside interference. When she was just two years old her father and I ended the relationship. For most of her life, he has resided in another state. As time passed we developed a civilized friendship. 

Unfortunately, I cannot say the same for Ny’Asia’s father. I was engaged to her father, but the engagement was called off for reason’s I will not discuss at this time. Eventually, I could not deal with the way things were going. For my sanity and well-being of my children I made the decision to end the relationship. It has not been easy trying to co-parent with Ny’Asia’s father. Trying to have a civilized friendship with him has been very difficult. However, like all things it is a work in progress. I never thought I’d be a single mom twice. Unfortunately, things happen. Being a single mom is stressful and challenging, but there is very little I would change. I have a decent job that pays the bills and I am working on my second college degree. My brown girls are the loves of my life and my reasons for living. We have a very simple lifestyle. We have traveled the bumpy road and I have made a few wrong turns, but things are getting better. My journey is not over yet. Despite all that I have gone through and will go through, I am not a victim of my circumstances. I am committed to growing and strengthening in all areas of my life. I am committed to learning, teaching, encouraging and empowering others as well as myself. At the end of the day, I am the only one who can determine what my life will be.

I was encouraged to start Dear Diary: My Life Raising Brown Girls by a friend who was also my coworker Dear Diary: My Life Raising Brown Girls is a personal blog about life as a single mother raising two African American daughters or as I call them "brown girls". It is about sharing my experiences, my views and opinions about motherhood, womanhood, co-parenting among other things. It is a place for all parents, regardless of race or marital status. Here at Dear Diary: My Life Raising Brown Girls you will read posts about my faith, hope and trust in God, as well as insights on topics such as peer pressure, bullying, education, entertainment, activities, health, wellness and much more.

Years ago, society looked negatively at single mothers.Being a single mom nowadays is not uncommon nor is it shameful. (Single) mothers do not want pity. We need support emotionally, mentally and spiritually from each other as we cope with motherhood and everyday life. And yes, sometime's we need to vent. I am here to provide support and lend an ear or shoulder to all mothers who need someone when they feel like they have no one. I hope you enjoy reading my thoughts, outbursts and ramblings. I look forward to hearing from you soon.

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